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Beautiful People,

Diversity. If I had a nickel for every time I heard this word during the last year, I would have traveled far away to a place with no news and live blissfully.

In our exceptionally verbal, exceedingly broadcasted collective life, it’s quite an achievement to overuse a word in the English vocabulary, and yet we’ve succeeded.

When listening to the many mentions of diversity, aliens might think that diversity is a new concept. “Hey, guess what? We've just discovered that life is more varied than we thought. So many different attitudes and principles. Who knew?”

When I say aliens, I mean Democratic/liberals who most likely live along the shorelines and have the ocean to escape to in times of trouble. The last elections revealed to them that diversity isn’t limited to the predictable, typical groups of immigrants, women, blacks, queers, but it includes ordinary Americans, who are also among these demographic groups that simply have a different outlook on life.

It is very honorable, not to mention scholar-istic, discussing diversity as an innovation catalyst in the industry and life while sitting in a contemporary designed living-room, or at a red-blue-white neon lighted TV studio. Citing research that has shown that being around people who are different from us makes us more creative, more diligent and harder-working. Doesn’t those ‘different people’ include Americans who have different priorities, beliefs, and values? If so, why we are not treating them the same?

When it comes to tolerance and accepting differences, why can’t we admit we are hypocrites?

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Last week, President Donald J. Trump rescinded guidance that enabled transgender school children to use the bathrooms and locker rooms of their choice regardless of their birth gender. By doing that the administration sent this issue back to the states and local schools to do what is best for their students.

I don’t mind universal bathrooms, just like in airplanes. I hate the long lines in the women’s bathrooms. I may or may not have used the men’s bathrooms in dire straits (e.g. intermission break). So folks, if we’ve found a way to share bathrooms at 36,000 feet, we can certainly compromise on solid ground. #GivePissAChance.

I wish for Gavin Grimm to win his case. Joshua Block, a senior staff attorney for the ACLU Nationwide, American Civil Liberties Union’s LGBT Project, said that Title IX, a federal statute, barring discrimination on the basis of “sex” in education protects transgender students. I hope the Supreme Court will agree.

Having said that, I also accept and respect the beliefs and values of people who think differently about this issue. They have the right to be heard and to disagree. It DOES NOT make them homophobic, ignorant, close-minded, intolerant, hateful human beings. It only makes the people who think that bigots.

America is vast enough for everyone. It is okay to live in a community with which you find more similarities than differences. It is also a good solution to relocate to a place where people share your values and beliefs.

Inclusion cannot be forced; it should be voluntarily accepted by individuals.

XO,
Sharon
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Wednesday March 1st

Beautiful People,

Diversity. If I had a nickel for every time I heard this word during the last year, I would have traveled far away to a place with no news and live blissfully.
 
In our exceptionally verbal, exceedingly broadcasted collective life, it’s quite an achievement to overuse a word in the English vocabulary, and yet we’ve succeeded. 

When listening to the many mentions of diversity, aliens might think that diversity is a new concept. “Hey, guess what? Weve just discovered that life is more varied than we thought. So many different attitudes and principles. Who knew?”

When I say aliens, I mean Democratic/liberals who most likely live along the shorelines and have the ocean to escape to in times of trouble. The last elections revealed to them that diversity isn’t limited to the predictable, typical groups of immigrants, women, blacks, queers, but it includes ordinary Americans, who are also among these demographic groups that simply have a different outlook on life.

It is very honorable, not to mention scholar-istic, discussing diversity as an innovation catalyst in the industry and life while sitting in a contemporary designed living-room, or at a red-blue-white neon lighted TV studio. Citing research that has shown that being around people who are different from us makes us more creative, more diligent and harder-working. Doesn’t those ‘different people’ include Americans who have different priorities, beliefs, and values? If so, why we are not treating them the same?

When it comes to tolerance and accepting differences, why can’t we admit we are hypocrites?

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Last week, President Donald J. Trump rescinded guidance that enabled transgender school children to use the bathrooms and locker rooms of their choice regardless of their birth gender. By doing that the administration sent this issue back to the states and local schools to do what is best for their students.

I don’t mind universal bathrooms, just like in airplanes. I hate the long lines in the women’s bathrooms. I may or may not have used the men’s bathrooms in dire straits (e.g. intermission break). So folks, if we’ve found a way to share bathrooms at 36,000 feet, we can certainly compromise on solid ground. #GivePissAChance. 

I wish for Gavin Grimm to win his case. Joshua Block, a senior staff attorney for the ACLU Nationwide, American Civil Liberties Union’s LGBT Project, said that Title IX, a federal statute, barring discrimination on the basis of “sex” in education protects transgender students. I hope the Supreme Court will agree.

Having said that, I also accept and respect the beliefs and values of people who think differently about this issue. They have the right to be heard and to disagree. It DOES NOT make them homophobic, ignorant, close-minded, intolerant, hateful human beings. It only makes the people who think that bigots. 

America is vast enough for everyone. It is okay to live in a community with which you find more similarities than differences. It is also a good solution to relocate to a place where people share your values and beliefs. 

Inclusion cannot be forced; it should be voluntarily accepted by individuals.

XO,
Sharon

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Robert BlakeIf you had A nickel for EVERY time, you would have ONE nickel. What you want is a nickel for EACH time.

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Margo JonesThe same could be true of nuts....

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Thomas BeronAren't those mostly "Italian" cookies

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Maida Broadbent WilliamsYou are right that everyone is entitled to their own ideas, beliefs, and values; but how are people going to learn about and not be prejudice against someone who is different than they are if they have no interaction with and no awareness that they are people just like you and me.

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Beautiful People,

L O V E

What pops up to your mind?

Your children? Your spouse? Your parents? A friend? A pet? Your job? Your home? Your country? Yourself?

Whether you think about love all the time, some of the time, only during times of crisis or Valentine's Day (kinda crisis), the thought of love is powerful. Because regardless of your love subject, the moment LOVE comes to mind, a warm feeling overflows the body, and a soft smile appears. For a split-second or as long as it lingers, you feel delighted and fortunate.

We need love the most when we feel sad, disappointed, troubled, discontent, unsuccessful, and when things don’t go the way we want. So here is my Valentine's Day gift to you-

Print the image of LOVE below, and each day place it in a different location. A few weeks ago, I needed a reminder that no matter how bad things are, I can still feel overjoyed and lucky, even if it is only for a brief moment.

I had LOVE framed, and every day I move it around- I place it on the left side of my desk, then on the right. On the kitchen counter. On my night table. On the Livingroom table. On the bathroom shelf.

The trick is to have love pop up unexpectedly during your day and make you feel warmhearted.

May love be always with you,
Sharon
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Tuesday February 14th

Beautiful People,

L O V E 

What pops up to your mind? 

Your children? Your spouse? Your parents? A friend? A pet? Your job? Your home? Your country? Yourself? 

Whether you think about love all the time, some of the time, only during times of crisis or Valentines Day (kinda crisis), the thought of love is powerful. Because regardless of your love subject, the moment LOVE comes to mind, a warm feeling overflows the body, and a soft smile appears. For a split-second or as long as it lingers, you feel delighted and fortunate.

We need love the most when we feel sad, disappointed, troubled, discontent, unsuccessful, and when things don’t go the way we want. So here is my Valentines Day gift to you-

Print the image of LOVE below, and each day place it in a different location. A few weeks ago, I needed a reminder that no matter how bad things are, I can still feel overjoyed and lucky, even if it is only for a brief moment.

I had LOVE framed, and every day I move it around- I place it on the left side of my desk, then on the right. On the kitchen counter. On my night table. On the Livingroom table. On the bathroom shelf. 

The trick is to have love pop up unexpectedly during your day and make you feel warmhearted. 

May love be always with you,
Sharon

Beautiful People,

Funny thing is to be an immigrant. On the one hand, for the last seven years I’m involved and invested in this country almost like a native born, on the other, I’m somewhat of a cultural observer.

One of the best perks of a cultural observer is to uncover meanings behind the cultural ways. So I’m happy to report my recent observations that wouldn’t be this much fun without interpretation.

Observation: CNN is systematically avoiding the morphological combination of ‘President Donald J. Trump’ in its website’s headings, and is reducing to a minimum its usage in the body of the articles.

Inference: Marilyn Ferguson wrote: “We have two strategies for coping; the way of AVOIDANCE or the way of ATTENTION.” CNN has found a way to do both simultaneously. The network is fixated on all things Trump, but cannot come to terms with him being President. The need for a New Age has never been greater.

Observation: 111.9 million people watched The Super Bowl on Sunday.

Inference: The other 213,639,686 Americans either watched Mixed Martial Arts or She-Devil.

Observation: President Trump fired acting AG Sally Yates after she announced that Justice Department lawyers would not defend the President’s executive order temporarily banning travel from seven Muslim-majority countries against legal challenges.
One of the principal duties of the Office of the Attorney General is to “Perform or supervise the performance of other duties required by statute or Executive Order.”

Inference: Sally Yates has pulled an Elliot Richardson with one difference. Mr. Richardson had resigned, and it became the defining moment of his career. It may also be a defining moment of
James Robart’s career, the Judge who put a temporary hold on that travel ban order or even a critical point in the lawsuit history of the States of Washington and Minnesota. However, it may certainly NOT be a noteworthy event in Ms. Yates’ career.

Observation: During the Senate AG debate Elizabeth Warren repeatedly violated Senate Rule, which forbids members from defaming the character and motives of their colleagues. After warnings that she ignored, she lost her privileges to participate in the rest of the debate. Then she launched a media blitz to say that she was “silenced.”

Inference: My guess is that Elizabeth Warren carefully watched and decided that what works for the BDS and Yale’s cry-bullies would work for her. I understand that the Democrats are now giving Republicans a taste of their own medicine. They’ve both earned it. However, Ms. Warren’s idea of medicine is Euthanasia.

Observation: A couple of days ago, a friend asked me how I feel about my decision to immigrate to the United States. I answered that immigration is ground-shaking, all-encompassing experience, which means it will take more than three weeks of a new reality and a whole lotta noise to discourage me.

Inference: We share an incredible democracy like no other in the world. The perceived dichotomy between good/bad, Adorables/Deplorables, black/white, immigrant/native-born, democrats /republicans is belittling the broad spectrum in-between those definitions, in which we all live, love and do business. Hence we ought to be better. There isn't any other way.

May we all find the courage to listen and learn, and may CNN bravely face reality.

XO,
Sharon
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Friday February 10th

Beautiful People,

Funny thing is to be an immigrant. On the one hand, for the last seven years I’m involved and invested in this country almost like a native born, on the other, I’m somewhat of a cultural observer.  

One of the best perks of a cultural observer is to uncover meanings behind the cultural ways. So I’m happy to report my recent observations that wouldn’t be this much fun without interpretation.

Observation: CNN is systematically avoiding the morphological combination of ‘President Donald J. Trump’ in its website’s headings, and is reducing to a minimum its usage in the body of the articles. 

Inference: Marilyn Ferguson wrote: “We have two strategies for coping; the way of AVOIDANCE or the way of ATTENTION.” CNN has found a way to do both simultaneously. The network is fixated on all things Trump, but cannot come to terms with him being President. The need for a New Age has never been greater. 

Observation: 111.9 million people watched The Super Bowl on Sunday. 

Inference: The other 213,639,686 Americans either watched Mixed Martial Arts or She-Devil. 

Observation: President Trump fired acting AG Sally Yates after she announced that Justice Department lawyers would not defend the President’s executive order temporarily banning travel from seven Muslim-majority countries against legal challenges. 
One of the principal duties of the Office of the Attorney General is to “Perform or supervise the performance of other duties required by statute or Executive Order.” 

Inference: Sally Yates has pulled an Elliot Richardson with one difference. Mr. Richardson had resigned, and it became the defining moment of his career. It may also be a defining moment of 
James Robart’s career, the Judge who put a temporary hold on that travel ban order or even a critical point in the lawsuit history of the States of Washington and Minnesota. However, it may certainly NOT be a noteworthy event in Ms. Yates’ career.

Observation: During the Senate AG debate Elizabeth Warren repeatedly violated Senate Rule, which forbids members from defaming the character and motives of their colleagues. After warnings that she ignored, she lost her privileges to participate in the rest of the debate. Then she launched a media blitz to say that she was “silenced.”

Inference: My guess is that Elizabeth Warren carefully watched and decided that what works for the BDS and Yale’s cry-bullies would work for her. I understand that the Democrats are now giving Republicans a taste of their own medicine. They’ve both earned it. However, Ms. Warren’s idea of medicine is Euthanasia. 

Observation: A couple of days ago, a friend asked me how I feel about my decision to immigrate to the United States. I answered that immigration is ground-shaking, all-encompassing experience, which means it will take more than three weeks of a new reality and a whole lotta noise to discourage me.

Inference: We share an incredible democracy like no other in the world. The perceived dichotomy between good/bad, Adorables/Deplorables, black/white, immigrant/native-born, democrats /republicans is belittling the broad spectrum in-between those definitions, in which we all live, love and do business. Hence we ought to be better. There isnt any other way. 

May we all find the courage to listen and learn, and may CNN bravely face reality. 

XO,
Sharon

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Ana GreenElliott Richardson was appointed by then President Nixon. Sally Yates was an Obama appointee who was in that position because Democrats were stalling to appoint Mr. Trump's cabinet pic.

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Jayne GilmoreVery well written. Welcome the the USA. I am very embarrassed by what is going on. In my 71 years I have never seen such immaturity in our supposed esteemed government spokespeople. It has become progressively worse these last 20 years but blocking freedom of speech at our universities is an eye opener of where we are headed. These are dangerous times and we need to get our priorities right, anarchy is not the answer. We need to focus on the true enemy, ISIS, who has declared war on our way of life and will try to do it from within. What part of that don't Americans understand? We should be better than this, to preserve our country for all who come to our shores to pursue a better life for all willing to join us. We must restore civility in order to work together for the benefit of all.

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Victor BurgosIlove culture n cultures especially the Chinese there quiet talk low n u can't understand them anyway

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Margie ClarkSharon Nir, you sound like a lady and immigrant that we can be proud to have in this country. So very glad you think we are a country worth living in still after all this fighting. I've met people from England, Ireland, Scotland, South Africa, Nigeria, and Australia and found that they thought much higher of the USA now after visiting and meeting the real people of this country. The reputation that the news and politics has given our country has made other countries not think very highly of us. I'm hoping and praying that God will bless this country once again as Christians all turn to Him in prayer. Welcome to your newish home and please stay with us. I'd love to friend you on FB. I'm an old WAC Band member, so could be a little like another Granny to you. No spring chicken here.

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Hal ButlerYou're quite bright and a joy to read. Thanks for sharing your insight.... I hope some of it rubs off on those who wish to tear apart our country.

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Hal ButlerVery true Sharon, unfortunately the ones who need to listen the most.... won't .

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Maureen RuhlYou are the spirit America was founded upon!

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Beautiful People,

“Immigrants to the US come from all corners of the world, and some arrive to our state to fill important needs like medical expertise. Immigrating with a spouse for work creates unique challenges.”
I sat down with Sarah Gustavus, the producer of New Mexico in Focus, to talk about what happened when I needed to set aside my superwoman’s principals and create a new meaning to my life.

Click below to view.

XO,
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Barbara TallentComing to America the right way and ASSIMILATE into our cultural is great but coming illegal is totally wrong.

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Idriss SmithThis is the Benifits of excepting people who will give greatness to our world and make it interesting for all of us, I'm so proud of those people of color in my world they saved my life on more than one occasion we should all embrace change it has far more positives.

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Sharon Nir added an event.

Watch tonight at 7 pm on KNME (local channel 5) my interview with Sarah Gustavus. We talk about immigration and what to do when life becomes The Opposite of Comfortable.

New Mexico in Focus is New Mexico PBS’ prime-time news magazine show covering the events, issues, and people that are shaping life in New Mexico and the Southwest.
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Friday January 6th

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Beautiful People,

In my book, The Opposite of Comfortable, I described my immigration experience and shared that immigrants never feel fully belonged. But having a sense of belonging is a human need, and in our family, we find ways to save our traditions and cherish our past, while we adapt and adjust to our permanent American culture.

There are some exceptional benefits of knowing other cultures and raising worldly-wise children as I reminded this weekend.

My daughter is an 8th-grade student at 21st Century Public Academy, a charter school in Albuquerque, NM. Since its foundation in 2000, the school has done outstanding work in serving a diverse population and promoting tolerance, inclusion, and acceptance of the differences between people.

On Saturday, the school’s newly-founded band orchestrated by the incredible music teacher, Mr. Ken Johnson, gave a Christmas performance at the local Barnes & Noble branch.

While watching, I realized that the lead singer, my Jewish, Israeli-American daughter was singing ‘Feliz Navidad’ a Spanish Christmas carol!

Never once she’d referred to the content of the performance, the language or the fact that Christmas is mostly a Christian holiday. My cosmopolitan girl doesn’t view religion, language, traditions, gender or color as barriers between people, but she sees them as growth opportunities.

For the performance, each band member chose a song. My daughter, who is a huge fan of The Beatles, selected "Happy Xmas (War Is Over)" by John Lennon and Yoko Ono. She paid tribute to John Lennon on the 36th anniversary of his death.

She’s only thirteen, but she has lived in many different places to know that people are not so much different from one another and that we all share the basic needs of love and peace.

No matter where you are, what color is your skin, what is your religion, sexual orientation or ethnicity-
Happy Holidays loved ones!

XO,
Sharon
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Tuesday December 13th

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Lydia LennihanLoved your interview on In Focus tonight! Thank you for sharing your experience,

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